The first week on my first job after college I came into work super early and left super late. At the end of the week my then boss called me into his office and said: “it’s great that you are so enthusiastic about this job, but you are setting a high bar for everyone’s expectation of you — what will they think when you come in a bit later next week?” I have never forgotten that because it embodies a critical lesson: what others expect of us is in no small part determined by our own behavior (...